Dear Robert, Thank you for all your amazing books I have them all and they have changed my life 💖
I have a question, many times in different lucid dreams I have this issue, I am going to ask a question to the dream awareness and I cannot speak, or I cannot breathe or I can say some words but some others I can’t for example, in one dream the dream awareness asked me to go live in the same city of my mom urgently, but when moving into that direction I am encountering a big challenge to live there. So yesterday I wanted to ask this to the dream awareness:
Dream awareness, what do you advice me to do with the big challenge im facing to move into my mom’s city?
And when I asked that question I lost completely my voice and couldn’t breathe or speak at all. I dont see anything wrong with the way I am asking the question. Why is this happening? It has happened to me many times. Thank you 💖
Thanks for your question 😉
In lucid dreams, we ‘see’ that the dream state is mentally reflective and also mentally dynamic.
By mentally reflective, I mean that in the lucid dream, we often see our beliefs, emotions, intents and expectations ‘reflected’ in the experience. For example, if I ‘expect’ to have a hard time flying through a wall, then I may hit the wall and bounce off — even though it is a dream wall! Or if I am lucid and ‘fear’ that the river will get bigger, then suddenly the river seems much bigger. The lucid dream reflects our ‘thinking in that moment.’
So to your situation, I sometimes hear from people who have noticed the same thing: they wish to ask a question of the non-visible awareness behind the dream (as I talk about it my books) — and suddenly, they can not speak! They lose their voice.
Because of the mentally reflective nature of lucid dreaming, a person needs to look at their beliefs, emotions, intents and expectations. For example, do you have a concern about asking a question because you ‘fear’ the response? If so, it may become very hard to ask a question.
Or do you have some ‘belief’ about the non-visible awareness behind the dream, which makes it hard to ask a question (e.g., some people believe in the ego self, but have a very difficult time believing in something ‘beyond’ the ego)?
Or does the ego self feel conflicted about asking a question — that is, one part of you wants to ask the question, but another part of you resists? That is the classical psychological situation called ‘approach-avoidance’ conflict (which Wikipedia states is this: “Approach–avoidance conflicts occur when there is one goal or event that has both positive and negative effects or characteristics that make the goal appealing and unappealing simultaneously. For example, marriage is a momentous decision that has both positive and negative aspects.” )
By resolving the belief or emotion or intent or expectation in the waking state, you then have a much greater chance of resolving it, and then easily being able to ask a question of the larger awareness.
Now for beginners to this aspect of lucid dream, I suggest that they start out with something simple: For example, ask the larger awareness, ‘Hey dream, show me something funny to see!’ or ‘Hey dream, show me something important for me to see!’. These ‘open’ questions are simple and normally do not bring up concerns or fears about the response.
Please realize that the response may be symbolic or it may be quite literal. Also, when we ask to ‘see’ then we normally receive a visual response — and if we ask to ‘hear’ then we may get a vocal response. The exact wording of a question or a request is very important.
Finally, you may wish to look at the dream or lucid dream, where you felt like you were ‘asked’ to go live in your mom’s city. If you wish to send it to me, exactly as you remember, then I will take a look at it. Sometimes people are ‘literal’ about things that are actually ‘symbolic’.